Love Blog - Men & Women’s Life After Eden

It may sound simple, upload a recent photo of your face, write a few lines about your character and wait until someone will be charmed…

Well, not if this is really important to you. If you are after finding a long-term relationship online, you need to take the profile writing task seriously and spend a lot of time on it, make sure it’s accurate and well-written. So how do you start?

1. When writing your own profile, think and concentrate on what you are looking for in a partner, rather than just describing yourself. For instance, if you can’t stand cigarettes smoke, mention you will only date non-smokers. Being specific means less responses, less unpleasant moment rejecting, but more good matches. Moreover, it will make you look more like a picky human,not just a desperate date seeker.
2. Sort out a decent photo. It’s a known fact that profiles with (interesting) photos are getting 8 times more responses. Again, don’t think how would you best present yourself, put yourself in the stranger’s place. Say, you have amazing legs and you look best on the image where you wear your red mini skirt. Of course people who know you won’t misjudge you, but what would someone, who sees your profile for the first time, think? Will he take you seriously? Will he get the right impression? Only use photos that will make the impression, which you want to make.
3. Okay, do you want to make a really positive impact? Ask someone to correct your grammar and run a spell check, once you finished writing everything down. Whatever you are looking for, it’s always better to appear intelligent and educated.
4. Don’t exaggeration anything. People easily spot when something is too good to be true or too bad to be true. Trying to impress by presenting facts in a slightly distorted manner will maybe bring you temporary more replies, but won’t leave you with many potentially good matches in the long run. Honesty is hard to find now-a-days, many people who would sense it in your profile, will value it much more than your doubtfully exaggerated good traits.
5. Lastly, describe your hobbies, values and most important - goals. Goals in life are very important, if they match, you can start working on them together, and if they conflict, you might be unable to build anything together. I’d suggest not to just make a top 10 list of your values, top ten list of your goals and so on. Your profile is one’s first insight into your world, it should be vivid, with a spark, with sense of humour, and of course - it has to be interactive. Stating that you are a “Caring, affectionate and loving man / woman who seeks a partner will similar qualities for serious relationship” will never ever be remembered nor get much attention. The best example I can think of is my ex-boyfriend, with who we recently spend some time in an online dating community, who says in his profile “I have a mild disposition, like a sleeping crocodile”. That’s what I call introduction with zest! Use metaphors, experiment with not commonly used words, and add some sense of humour to spice up the first step one takes into your world.

After you have finished writing everything down, save it as a draft and come back to look at your profile the next day, when you are fresh. Does it present you in the best possible way? Does it have a good smooth flow, or are these just random chaotic facts about you that won’t tell much about your writing skills? Do you maybe have something you better remove?

Having said that, I must add that after almost a year of membership in one of the online dating sites, where my profile was displayed with no picture and the first page clearly said not to contact me, yet people still did every time I was online, I should think that all of the above only applies to men, because women can only indicate the gender and wait for responses.

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