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September 18, 2007
Dating online could be fun and entertaining, it could be a great way to choose from a huge pool of potential admirers and pass the time nicely, however, you should not forget that not every Mr. Nice Guy is indeed nice. Have you heard the dreadful story of a 13-years-old girl got attacked and raped by a person she met online? Or just go over this list of cases where people spoke on the phone or met online, planned a meeting and got raped, attacked, or even killed. Read this list through and the whole Internet dating idea will totally lose it’s charm.
Are everybody rapists?
NO, but there is definitely a good share of people who pretend to be something they are not, because: online you reveal only as much as you choose to reveal. You talked to the person and he has a soft mellow voice? Doesn’t mean he has bad intentions! You had seen him on cam and he looks sweet? Well, don’t forget that looks often mislead and if he is attentive and appears to be caring online, this could be a mere mask to trick you into meeting. Younger girls are more often the victims due to lack of experience and judgmental sense, as well as the tendency to fall in love, so typical at the adolescent age, they believe easier.
I remember seen a story on TV about a 40-years old woman with high education, who was talking to another highly educated guy of her age, for over 2,5 years. I doubt at that age she could have blindly fell in love and the mere fact that she waited almost 3 years for meeting indicats that she was not in a rush to meet and wanted to get to know the person better at distance. As you can guess, bottom line is that he attacked her and she survived by pure miracle, though her face will never be as before.
What I am trying to say is, if you chat with someone from you cosy room and if feels so great and safe, don’t lose your senses. The world out there is cruel, many people take drugs and lose control, many get addicted to their online buddies, and other factors that can endanger your life, and you only have one.
Basic tips for Safety Online:
- Guard your identity. Your first name is enough, don’t disclose any other details.
- Be careful with choosing a suggestive / sexy name. Some guys can take it wrong of their imagination will run wild.
- Don’t meet your online friends alone, do it only in a public place and inform your friends or relatives about the meeting beforehand.
- Don’t leave your drink (especially sparkling) unattended. Sounds silly? Do you know how many times this was used to slip an LSD table in one’s drink?
- Be wary of someone who is very vague, talks in circles or answers questions with other questions. If you sense your online buddy puts extra effort into protecting his privacy — at best, he could be married.
- Be cautious with people who complain too much about their money problems, how lonely they are and how life betrayed them. Maybe it’s true, but it’s also a great way to simulate your sympathy and love.
- Finally — use common sense and don’t let love rob you blind. Do a little digging, you might find the same person in another online dating site with a different picture or details…
September 19th, 2007 at 3:04 am
Good tips!
One can never be too careful with the online dating and relationship things. There are a lot of predators out there and the internet has made their job easier.
Though on the good side, every now and then, you might come across some one really nice!
February 21st, 2008 at 1:49 am
These tips are really helpful. Thanks for sharing.
May 5th, 2008 at 11:50 am
It seems like there are more predators out there these days, than there use to be in olden times.
Or is it just that there is more opportunity for them to do stuff these days?
I am starting to suspect that there may be something wrong with the human race.