Love Blog - Men & Women’s Life After Eden

While I’d love to be say “no”, in reality it’s a big “yes”. You will be delighted to hear, however, that both so to speak rich and poor have this problem. Money, when it comes to relationship, often arise fears. When you financial status is low, you will:

1. Fear being rejected and not accepted because of your status and financial situation.
2. Worry that money might effect the level of intimacy in a relationship.
3. Finally, at some point you might need to ask your partner for a “loan”, and this, as well the expectation of your partner who might think you WOULD want a loan, could make you uncomfortable.

All of the above sounds logical, but the interesting issue is, those who are rated higher in the social-financial scale, have exactly the sale problems, only of course they are looked at from a different angle. When you financial status is high, you will:

1. Fear that you are beloved, accepted and adored only because of your status.
2. Fear that your financial advantage might effect the level of intimacy in your relationship
3. Finally, if you are stingy, you might not like the idea to be lended from.

Yes, “problems of rich people”, right? Never the less, you might wonder how it will effect the level of intimacy. Remember Everlast’s song, “Ends“? “If you’re broke she’s spittin, and if you’re rich she might swallow” Sad, and of course not in all the cases it’s true, but in many it is.

Bottom line is, unequal financial status raises concern between the partners, even tough the concern is different for both, the source of evil problem is the same, and even if partners are in love and discharge the issue in their minds, there are always enough relative and friends who will kindly outline the problem for us and recharge us with their poisonous comments and stings.

Solution?

There is no solution that can solve problem that has not been solved for many centuries now. Finding a partner of an equal financial status could be a solution, but then again, we do not count out the cash in one’s wallet before we fall in love, so we normally get in a relationship, fall in love and only then get to know about our partner’s income, unless of course they are obvious to us by the status symbols (car brand, clothes, neighborhood etc).

For partners who are already in a relationship and are aware of the financial abyss between them, there is no over-night solution, however you should find the right balance for YOU, which is — either DO talk about money and develop understanding, clear out doubts and find solutions together, or, on the other hand, DO NOT talk about money at all. Setting your financial issue as a taboo will not necessarily help, in fact — it won’t, but not reminding each other about this issue will help you both to concentrate on a more spiritual side of your love.

Don’t forget that money are a mere tool for comfortable life, and it should not be a tool for developing friendship, winning love or… destroying it.

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