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December 6, 2007
What is sex for a woman? With an average ego-maniac man we get a few French kisses, a few kisses on the neck, dedicated caresses of the breasts, if lucky — a few licks down there, and from 1 to 100 minutes of intercourse. And, what’s sex for a guy? With a woman of an average experience you will probably get to start from a fellatio, a few shy kisses here and there and then from 1 to 100 minutes of intercourse (and about 1 to 100 minutes of complains, if you really fall on an average woman). I wonder if this is why over the past 15 years we have 7 millions (!!!) of asexuals on our planet? Anyway, before you put a big X on your boring sex life, here are 5 very basic tips for enriching the experience and possibly improving your and your partner’s satisfaction.
The good thing about sex is that it’s a learnable skill. No one is a natural born good lover, so it’s all about what you pick up from personal experience, movies, magazines, books and Dark Light of Love Blog. 
So let’s see what you can pick up today…
1. Back Massage With a Tongue.
We all know the famous back massage, it can be done with oils or implementing various techniques but why not to try and take it to the highest level of pleasure? Make sure your partner is laying comfortably on the belly and instead of your fingers, use your tongue’s muscle to give her or him a message. Be creative and experiment, remember that it’s not just about kissing the back, it’s about massaging. Move all over, tantalize, suck on the skin, gently bite…whatever, as long as you feel you get a positive response from your partner!
2. Start from the Bottom to the Top.
If your partner took a shower and you have no mental blocks about kissing one’s feet, why not to start from the very bottom and go to the top, while not missing any inch of your partner’s body? Remember the saying “the higher is the love, the lower are the kisses”, and exhibit a bit of originality. It won’t turn your sex life up-side-down, but can be nice twist, if you have never done this before.
3. The Rough Twist
Many people around the globe practice BDSM. This does not mean you have to tie your partner to the ceiling, whip him / her to death and torture their body until they passes out from pain. NO. You can add a bit of a rough spice by pulling the partner’s head back by the hair, holding their hands up tight while kissing, holding the partner by the neck (or any other kind of mild restriction), spanking while doing doggy… You can proceed to handcuffs and tying your lover to bed with a scarf or rope, blindfolding and spanking with a belt or slapping one’s face during intercourse (or other sexual activity so they would understand you are not just having a bad mood). Moreover, it could be just about verbal dominance and obedience. The point is — someone has to take a bit of control, and you can be pleasantly surprised when you will see your partner likes it, just be sure to start very very gently and not to scare your partner off with various toys or harsh pain.
4. Sex is not only about Feels, but also about the Looks.
After a few years with the same partner we might decide that it’s all about what we do and how we love each other… No, the looks are still important. Sexy lingerie is essential for both men and women. The neglected (aka “natural”) look can work fine for a loving couple 6 days a week, but at least once a week make sure you look REALLY fantastic, for girls it means nail polish, laced underwear, some makeup, perfume and whatever else it does the trick for your partner. For guys it means shower, no socks and knickers purchased after 1995.
5 . Switch from the Regular Routine.
For women, the atmosphere plays a magnificent role, but for some guys it also is somewhat important. Try not to do it always on the bed in same direction. Try different places in your apartment, from the washing machine (preferably when it’s on), shower, kitchen table, floor, and up to the public toilets, motels, cars and friend’s house when they are away. The idea is to be spontaneous and bring a little extra excitement and new wave into your dusty sex routine.
Needless to say that you should not spice up your life too often (tongue massage of the back just won’t feel good anymore if you do it every day), nor implement it all at once, — your partner might suspect you have learnt this whole new batch of tricks elsewhere, and I doubt the shadow of suspect will fall on this blog. In anyway, we always have an alibi for anyone, so you can count on Dark light of Love! Please subscribe to our (free) feed if you don’t want to miss more ground breaking tips that we have in stock.
December 10th, 2007 at 4:22 pm
Great post, I like your perspective on love and sex. Thanks for the advice!