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December 26, 2007
Building self confidence can take months and in most cases — years. Building strong self confidence over night is mission however, here are a few tips that will help you to deal with situations as they come, and build a strong and unbeatable confidence in your actions, get rid of fears and learn to understand each and every situation better. So…
1.) Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Too often, we place excess importance on potential problems. We all have a certain amount of energy so let’s apply it to creating extraordinary relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our goals INSTEAD of wasting that energy worrying. Take action on what you have control over and minimize risks for what you don’t. Then invest your energy wisely.
2.) In doing something for the first time, imagine that you have already done it in the past. Close your eyes, then vividly imagine you succeeding wildly at what you are really going to do for the first time. The mind does NOT know the difference between something VIVIDLY imagined and something real. Make it vivid by involving all 5 senses.
3.) Find someone who is already confident in that area and copy them. Model as many of their behaviors, attitudes, values, and beliefs for the context you want to be confident in as you can. How can you do this? Talk with them if you have access to them. If you don’t have access to them, get as much exposure to them as you can. This could be talking to people who know the person and/or buying their products if they have some.
4.) Use the “as-if” frame. I literally love this frame of mind. If you were confident, how would you be acting? How would you be moving? How would you be speaking? What would you be thinking? What would you tell yourself inside? By asking yourself these questions, you are literally forced to answer them by going into a confident state. You will then be acting “as-if” you are confident. Now just forget you are acting long enough and pretty soon you’ll develop it into a habit.
5.) Go into the future and ask if what you’re faced with is such a big deal. This might be a bit morbid and yet this works tremendously well. Imagine yourself on your deathbed looking back over your life. You are surrounded by your friends and family. You’re reviewing your life. Is what you’re faced with now even going to pop up? That’s highly unlikely. Keeping things in proper perspective really diminishes fear.
6.) Remember that you lose out on 100% of the opportunities that you never go for. To get what you want, ask for it. I fully believe that if I ask enough people for whatever I want, I can get it. This is not necessarily true and yet it’s a useful belief. As you think about your goals and what you are striving for, how effective would it be for you to believe that all the people out there want to help you if you only ask? Whether that is true or not in the “real world” does not matter. If you find that belief empowering, I invite you to adopt it as your own.
7.) Disarm the nagging, negative internal voice. That negative internal voice can keep anyone stopped. To disarm the internal voice, imagine a volume control and lower the volume. Or how about changing the internal voice to Mickey Mouse? Do you think you could take Mickey Mouse seriously if he were criticizing you? Change the voice to a clown voice. The point is to disarm the voice by altering the way it nags at you. If I hear my own voice nagging me, it stops me. If I hear a clown voice, I laugh and continue onward.
Many thanks to Spirituality Guide for the source.
December 26th, 2007 at 11:10 pm
This is great advice for anyone, no matter what they do. Sometime we let a lack of confidence stop us from doing so many things that we could be great at. Thank you for some fabulous advice.
December 26th, 2007 at 11:53 pm
Great list of tips, especially asking yourself ‘What is the worst that could happen?’ Often its someone simply saying ‘no.’ If a person is so fragile that simple rejection will shatter their confidence, they may have other underlying issues.
December 27th, 2007 at 3:26 am
Great post. I learned a lot. What I liked most is number 3 “Find someone who is already confident in that area and copy them”. In this case you can build your confidence slowly but surely
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December 29th, 2007 at 8:16 pm
great post, will forward to my little brother. lol
January 3rd, 2008 at 3:15 pm
Wow, great advice! I thank you for sharing it with us.
January 9th, 2008 at 9:43 pm
What the worst could happen? I ask this question myself every time I have doubts to do something. Some time the worst happens when you stay idle and avoid action
January 11th, 2008 at 3:17 pm
I hope, that your advice will help me. Thanks for sharing!
February 6th, 2008 at 1:33 am
Hey, thanks for the advice! I hate getting nagged at and now I will make sure not to be a hypocrite in the future =)
August 1st, 2008 at 10:10 am
This can help a lot of people and might help them boost their confidence meter.. Thanks again for the post.