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January 5, 2008
I guess many people ask themselves this question at least once in a relationship, when they face their other half and either have to admit past lies at the risk of losing their relationship, or - lie and leave everything as it is.
Being on the other side of things, I know from personal experience that sometimes you are ready to be lied to, just so the other half will not leave, and at times we don’t even need the naked truth to kill our love. But, is it right? Problem is, not everyone is forgiving, not everyone is ready to tolerate a fact of being lied to, deceived or betrayed. Most husbands, unfortunately, do betray their dearly beloved wives, but admitting this would mean their suitcase will be thrown out of the window, so, will they..? Of course not.
In my opinion, admitting is always better — if your partner loves you, he or she would not want to lose you and would probably accept anything. It’s still better if truth will come out after a few years when you developed much deeper feelings, and you should take into account this possibility.
Having said that, with all my understanding of how beneficial it is to be perfectly honest, I never ever admitted anything, when I had something to hide, simply cos I had no guts, and was afraid of the consequences. It’s really sad that now-a-days we are a nation of cowards. 
January 6th, 2008 at 3:58 pm
I think before calling yourself a coward for not admitting to being unfaithful to one person you have to ask yourself one question.
Would it hurt them more than it would help anything?
I truly think sometimes people “come clean” more to Inflict pain than to do any good “for the relationship” ! James
February 13th, 2008 at 11:02 pm
its better to be honest. im sure it’ll hurt your partner to know that you’ve been unfaithful. but its better that way than to lead them on. Just be selective of the terms that you are going to use when breakin the new to them.
February 14th, 2008 at 10:40 am
i always admit but my GF always takes thing so hard
it’s really annoying sometime
March 23rd, 2008 at 5:12 pm
i agree with you.admitting is more easier way and will not hurt both side.