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January 24, 2008
1. Forgotten to be faithful
Infidelity is an ugly word and when it becomes a reality, things can get nasty. Being faithful in spite of the attractive new employee in Accounting, may be difficult but it is crucial to the strength of your relationship.
2. No Chemistry, Biology… nothing!
The first year, you can’t keep your hands off each other. But now things are cooling down. Your hands are now firmly in your pockets. That warm feeling in your heart doesn’t seem to make it flutter at all. Chemistry seems to have taken a backseat.
3. Why can’t you be like me!
Some couples specialise in Change Management. They try to mould each other into their own mental images of what the other should be! That’s treading dangerous ground.
4. Jealousy in all it’s ugliness
Worried that your partner is doing better than you are? You find it difficult to smile when they do well at work? These could be signals that your heart is not set right.
5. Insecurity
When you don’t feel good enough to be loved and pampered the way you are, then you can be sure that insecurity is at work in your life. Unless you have self worth and think yourself worthy of attention, you can’t expect to be loved.
6. Misdirected prioritisation
Where does your relationship stand on your priority list? If it’s after ‘friends’, ‘parents-in-law’ and ‘neighbours’ then maybe you need to take another look at that list!
7. Communication breakdown
Remember the days when you used to sit on the porch swing and just talk? Bring those ‘good ole’ days’ back. Communication is vital in building a lasting relationship.
8. An unhealed wound
If you’re not over your ex, then don’t expect this relationship to work. It’s already headed downhill at super speed. Sort your heart out first!
9. Overflowing expectation
Avoid entering a relationship with a dozen expectations. If you do then you’ll end up trying to match life to your mental blueprint.
10. Letting yourself go
If you know longer look anything like when you first met your partner, then you’re in troubled waters. To keep the romance alive, take care of your health and your appearance. It will keep the fire in your partner’s heart burning only for you!
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January 24th, 2008 at 8:11 pm
Very nice and useful post
. Thank you I wasn’t aware of much of these articles and blogs.
January 25th, 2008 at 6:27 am
hi thr.thanx for such a wonderful blog. i haven’t seen such delicate points in a long time. u have really thought out the tings from both of a man and a woman’s perspective. i have also bookmarked ur site. keep posting even more awesome posts.
January 25th, 2008 at 9:47 pm
Thank you for this helpful list. I’m going through a rough spot with my man at the moment and it is really getting me down. Love this blog!
January 25th, 2008 at 10:39 pm
Great advice. The “prioritization” one really rings true for me - always had issues with this in relationships.
January 26th, 2008 at 3:20 am
That’s a great list. I wish I would have read it 2 years ago. It probably would have saved my marriage.
Oh well. There’s always next time. If you don’t succeed try again.
January 30th, 2008 at 10:04 pm
those are 10 excellent points in maintaining a healthy relationship. i recently started going out with this 1 gurl and i realllly like her. ill be sure to keep these 10 things in mind so things dont turn sour.
January 31st, 2008 at 5:32 pm
Overflowing expectation… that’s too bad indeed. Never expect too much from a relationship, because often you will be disappointed…
February 2nd, 2008 at 6:24 am
Its good to have reasons for breakups. But should not be dependable.
February 3rd, 2008 at 1:04 pm
i hate the why can’t you be like me
what a whole load of crap!
February 5th, 2008 at 7:41 am
Great list here. #6 and #10 jump out at me. They both relate to taking things for granted. Sometimes you get comfortable and don’t realize how good of a thing you have. At least you can learn lessons from all of these. Thanks and cheers!
February 6th, 2008 at 4:31 am
a good read. thse are all SO true! communication is always the first to go. its always a tell tale sign that something’s not right.
May 22nd, 2008 at 4:59 pm
I think #6 is a big thing. You need to focus on what’s important to you and spend time with everyone on that list, not just your significant other. But on the flip side, don’t make it feel like a time schedule.
September 23rd, 2008 at 11:49 am
I broke up with a guy who had been with me for 6 years…and it’s killing me to talk about it.