Archive for February, 2008
This is so inspiring…
Got this great YouTube video today from an ex-boyfriend of mine on FaceBook. Actually I got it long ago and only today I bothered to have a look. It is a little long (they could have done it sorter), BUT, reflex a lot of the sad reality going on over the FaceBook “usergroups” and “friends”..
James Walsh, a copy editor who gives a lot of information information on how to get a quickie divorce at his website — http://www.quickie-divorce.com, says that divorce can often adversely affect your daily life and job. People are bound to feel very upset, angry, anxious, and stressed during the time of the divorce. These feelings can continue to dominate a person’s mind long after the divorce is over. It is not easy to let go of a marriage that you thought would last forever and accept failure of your marriage so easily. Therefore, it is common for people to brood about the circumstances.
Some people keep thinking about what they could have done differently so that their marriage would have survived. Dealing with all these thoughts is not easy. Consequently, when people reach their offices with such kind of a mindset, it becomes very hard for them to concentrate on their work. Even when they want to focus on their work, their thoughts keep going back to the past circumstances and events.
There is some amount of stress involved in every job. However, during or after a divorce, the usual job stress also becomes very hard to handle because a divorced person already feels a lot of stress due to divorce and change of living conditions.
If the divorced person is a custodial parent, he or she is bound to feel more responsible for the children because he or she needs to take care of the children all on his or her own. You may have shared the responsibility of your children all this while but all of a sudden, taking care of your children’s homework, whereabouts, and their lives becomes your duty. This can be a very daunting task. Consequently, you are bound to spend more time and energy in household tasks than at work.
Most single fathers struggle to get their children ready for school, make their breakfast, pack their lunch, and drop them off to school Therefore, by the time they reach their offices, they begin to feel tired already. After all, running a household by yourself and taking care of the children is no child’s play. The entire morning energy that used to be concentrated on office work alone gets divided between office work and household work. Therefore, it is highly likely that their productivity at work will be adversely affected.
If you are a single mother who has just started working, life can be no easier for you either. Getting into the job market after a long gap can be an intimidating task. In the beginning, it is important to make your mark at your new job to show that you are the best person for the job. This may require long and hectic hours at work. Coming back from work and managing your house can seem like a stretch for most part of the week.
Many people feel that they need to spend more time with their children after the divorce in order to make the children feel comfortable about the new living arrangements. Therefore, it is not uncommon for people to give up job promotions that require them to put in more number of hours at work or job movements that require them to relocate to other cities. Therefore, the career graph of divorced people cannot make an upward shift during and shortly after the divorce process because of their personal commitments.
Once people settle down in their lives with their changed set of circumstances, they are bound to immerse themselves in their jobs. Diverting their energies towards their jobs helps people beat stress and think about future goals and achievements rather than failures of the past.
How to Minimise the Effects of Divorce on Your Career and Day-to-Day Performance?
Most people have a very tough time coping with the challenges posed by their careers during this time of crisis. Therefore, we have come up with a few tips that can help you minimise the effects of divorce and maximise your job performance.
* View your job and your work as an outlet for relieving stress rather than a source of it.
* Seek professional help if you are unable to let go of the bitterness associated with the divorce.
* Socialise with your colleagues and friends at work. This can prove to be a good stress buster. Once you start to enjoy doing that, you will look forward to coming to work.
* If you are unable to strike a balance between your personal life and work life due to long hours or additional responsibilities at home, ask your boss if you can work from home till the time things get sorted out.
Regardless age or culture, we are ceaselessly looking for date ideas, right? That’s why I thought Valentine’s Day would be the best timing to blog about it, so maybe you can get a useful dating advice before the day is over. Even if it’s too late, we date all the time, right? And also, when dating someone, we occasionally make mistakes, wrong moves, rush or develop our relationship too slow, which results is loss of passion.
So how do you find the right solution for each and every situation and not only keep your sweetheart near, but also spice up your relationship and make your dates truly romantic? The guys who author PlanJam blog, realize that love is an eternal sequence of dilemmas and confusions, so they offer daily tips and tricks for the dating scene. How to choose the best gift? How to let go for holidays? How to survive after a break up, and many other questions are answered in a professionally written and fun manner on PlanJam blog. Read, enjoy, learn, and spread the love 
This is a tricky question because every guy is different. One will not be able to enjoy unless the play gets rougher, while others develop a complex if you slightly bite their buttocks. Moreover, it depends on the mood (yes, guys also have different moods, but they are always “in the mood” for it, only depends HOW they want it). So all you can do is, with a little background knowledge, sometimes adjust to his moods and by this give him the best emotional experience.
The Alpha Male.
For instance, if your partner has just won in a game, signed an important contract at work or did anything else that gave him a feeling of being a “winner”, his testosterone level will go up and he would prefer any kind of “animalistic” sex or a just quickie against a wall. When he is in such a mood, he is unlikely to want to participate in any play where he takes a submissive role.
If the guy is an state of being an “excited winner”, all you need to do is tease him a little bit (with maybe a small strip tease) and make him come and take his prize. He would probably be very active, creative and maybe even nicely-aggressive.
The Sensual Touch.
Women tend to believe that guys only want rough action, while in reality many men do want close and intimate soft sensuality. They want to be touched and caressed not only after or before intimacy, but also during (don’t we all?). While all living creatures always react positively to warmth and love, there are situations when this can be especially appreciated. For example, after a dangerous trip, or after any changes you both or he has undergone or just experimenting something unusual — men would prefer a soft, loving and sensual act that will make him feel your love and closeness. Anything that is face-to-face, gentle and involves maximum physical closeness will be good after any sort of stressful situation.
The post-stress situations make us crave for a warm and healing touch, so if you feel your men is in such state, create an atmosphere where the aim is not reaching the peek and climax, but to get close and enjoy this physical and emotional union.
The knocked-down boy.
The reality is dynamic, and a guy who has just yesterday been successful and was in a mood to be an “alpha male”, may get hit by his work, annoyed by financial situation or just fight with relatives and be brought down. Even if he is not down to the point of completely not being in a mood for sex, he still won’t feel like pushing the limits of sex and creativity in bed.
If your guy is worn out, just take all the activity on yourself and rock his world without demanding innovations or even expecting too much.
In conclusion, sometimes it is not the position or actual sexy trick that makes your intimacy better, but adjusting perfect to your partner’s state of mind and emotional needs.
This position (I decided not to illustrate since this is a family safe blog. Or at least was.) is very famous in all cultures and popular for all ages. Why?
First of all, it allows deep penetration; so guys with average size can explore their full potential in this position, while men with sizes larger than the average can not only enjoy but also see the act from the best angle. Moreover, (and this of course depends on the variation and angle of this position) both the guy and girl get easy access to the (woman’s) clitoris, in case you decide that woman’s pleasure is important as well.
The guy has his hands free, so considering the tempting proximity of the buttocks and the anus, this might get useful and even pleasurable. Also, it simulates the G-spot and is perfect for energetic or hardcore action without wearing out or tiring one of the partners.
Finally and essentially: you are not face to face — so you can just enjoy.