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February 23, 2008
James Walsh, a copy editor who gives a lot of information information on how to get a quickie divorce at his website — http://www.quickie-divorce.com, says that divorce can often adversely affect your daily life and job. People are bound to feel very upset, angry, anxious, and stressed during the time of the divorce. These feelings can continue to dominate a person’s mind long after the divorce is over. It is not easy to let go of a marriage that you thought would last forever and accept failure of your marriage so easily. Therefore, it is common for people to brood about the circumstances.
Some people keep thinking about what they could have done differently so that their marriage would have survived. Dealing with all these thoughts is not easy. Consequently, when people reach their offices with such kind of a mindset, it becomes very hard for them to concentrate on their work. Even when they want to focus on their work, their thoughts keep going back to the past circumstances and events.
There is some amount of stress involved in every job. However, during or after a divorce, the usual job stress also becomes very hard to handle because a divorced person already feels a lot of stress due to divorce and change of living conditions.
If the divorced person is a custodial parent, he or she is bound to feel more responsible for the children because he or she needs to take care of the children all on his or her own. You may have shared the responsibility of your children all this while but all of a sudden, taking care of your children’s homework, whereabouts, and their lives becomes your duty. This can be a very daunting task. Consequently, you are bound to spend more time and energy in household tasks than at work.
Most single fathers struggle to get their children ready for school, make their breakfast, pack their lunch, and drop them off to school Therefore, by the time they reach their offices, they begin to feel tired already. After all, running a household by yourself and taking care of the children is no child’s play. The entire morning energy that used to be concentrated on office work alone gets divided between office work and household work. Therefore, it is highly likely that their productivity at work will be adversely affected.
If you are a single mother who has just started working, life can be no easier for you either. Getting into the job market after a long gap can be an intimidating task. In the beginning, it is important to make your mark at your new job to show that you are the best person for the job. This may require long and hectic hours at work. Coming back from work and managing your house can seem like a stretch for most part of the week.
Many people feel that they need to spend more time with their children after the divorce in order to make the children feel comfortable about the new living arrangements. Therefore, it is not uncommon for people to give up job promotions that require them to put in more number of hours at work or job movements that require them to relocate to other cities. Therefore, the career graph of divorced people cannot make an upward shift during and shortly after the divorce process because of their personal commitments.
Once people settle down in their lives with their changed set of circumstances, they are bound to immerse themselves in their jobs. Diverting their energies towards their jobs helps people beat stress and think about future goals and achievements rather than failures of the past.
How to Minimise the Effects of Divorce on Your Career and Day-to-Day Performance?
Most people have a very tough time coping with the challenges posed by their careers during this time of crisis. Therefore, we have come up with a few tips that can help you minimise the effects of divorce and maximise your job performance.
* View your job and your work as an outlet for relieving stress rather than a source of it.
* Seek professional help if you are unable to let go of the bitterness associated with the divorce.
* Socialise with your colleagues and friends at work. This can prove to be a good stress buster. Once you start to enjoy doing that, you will look forward to coming to work.
* If you are unable to strike a balance between your personal life and work life due to long hours or additional responsibilities at home, ask your boss if you can work from home till the time things get sorted out.
February 23rd, 2008 at 4:21 pm
I found your site on google blog search and read a few of your other posts. Keep up the good work. Just added your RSS feed to my feed reader. Look forward to reading more from you.
- Randy Nichols.
February 25th, 2008 at 9:49 am
Well..a lot of married people nowadays..agree to this divorce thing..but I totally disagree with this one because it will not only affect the couples but also their children.^_^
February 27th, 2008 at 5:18 am
If the divorced person is a custodial parent, he or she is bound to feel more responsible for the children because he or she needs to take care of the children all on his or her own.
February 29th, 2008 at 12:23 am
Oh, I just loved the fact that the one and only link in a site all about the adverse affects of divorce was “Divorce!” I just can’t help but seriously lol at that!
And maybe you should have a reader contest to rename this site-The Dark Light of Love sounds like a mid-day soap opera.
May 2nd, 2008 at 8:39 pm
I read one study in the Wall Street Journal where it said that if you just stuck it out, it was likely that you would still be together in 5 years and much happier. Five years later, there was a higher incidence of unhappiness amongst the people that actually divorced.