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March 12, 2008
It seems to be a pretty popular topic across the love-oriented blogs, so I thought I’d cover it also. Let’s face it, most women do fake. According to researches we are talking about 70% of women who either always fake, or fake occasionally, which is a pretty big percentage! There are various reasons why would woman decide to fake it, starting from tension and inability to achieve it in the first place, to just a way of “speeding up the process” if it’s starting to take too long. Another common reason is when the couple has strong feelings to each other, the girl would not want to leave the guy with a bad feeling and do it to avoid “offending” him. Whatever the reason is: most women do it and it’s a fact.
However, not everyone do it right and this results in extra fights, tension and uncomfortable feelings, even breakups, so here are the most common mistakes women do while faking, and how to avoid them.
Mistake nr 1: All the orgasms are always identical.
This is a very common mistake women do. The real orgasms always vary in their intensity and reaction they cause, while most of the parameters and physical reactions are similar, sometimes they are stronger, sometimes they are ‘lighter’. Some make the girl scream, others pass almost unnoticed to the guy. That’s nature. However, when faking, women always think that if it won’t be loud enough OR won’t look similar to the previous time when they faked it already — then the guy would suspect something and hence they always do the routine identically.
Solution: Vary your reactions, and explain that it’s not always strong… This will look natural. naturally evil… 
Mistake nr 2: Faking Vaginal Spasms (or not faking them).
Regerdless the intensity and outward appearance of woman’s orgasm, there are always always always vaginal spasms that are impossible to ignore if you are inside her. They come in sequence, from about 5 to 20+, relatively fast and strong. Woman with more experience knows that they need to fake that too, which is very hard, while women with less experience in this area don’t do it in the first place and then, it’s rather obvious to the guy that this was fake.
Solution: If the girl decides to fake the spasms, she would either apply tension on her entire genitals system (which is also wrong because you would squeeze all the muscles and won’t have the “pauses” between the spasms), or try to “squeeze” the vaginal muscles, but then again she probably won’t manage to do it fast enough. The only real solution that will help you to avoid any doubts on guy’s part is NOT to let him be inside you during “your orgasm”. You can always express wishes for his hands to be elsewhere, which will, of course, “help you to reach the climax”.
Mistake nr. 3: Heartbeats rythmn remains the same.
Before natural orgasm the heartbeats rhythm goes significantly higher while afterwards is slowly goes back to normal. When the orgasm is fake, the heartbeats either won’t go much higher (if you are not particularly in the mood) or, if you want to climax but don’t manage, the high heartbeats rhythm won’t go anywhere after the alleged “orgasm” because you still want it! Those who practice yoga can artificially play with their heartbeats rhythm, although it won’t always work because you can’t fully concentrate (assuming your partner is somewhat good and manages to destruct you).
Solution: What you can do it either artificially increase your (deep) breathing which will have a similar effect, and try to take a few deep and slow breaths “after” to calm yourself down, or if you are really aroused, make him think that is was so damn good and you want again… and more… That would look more naturally (evil..)
Mistake nr. 4: Combining Real Orgasms with Fake one
Perhaps one of the biggest mistakes women make. If you always fake, you have less chances to be suspected, because the guy had seen nothing to compare to. Even if he compares you to his previous partners, you can always claim being different, and you could be! When you let the guy compare and he might analyze that when you are more tired or less in the mood for it, the orgasms are different. Normally the guys are not that bright, but sometimes they analyze…
Solution: I am not saying you shouldn’t aspire to achieve a real one or should totally avoid faking it (guy, don’t kill me for saying it, ok?), but having a ratio of 50-50 is easily suspectable.
Mistake nr. 5: Don’t get down to Earth too quickly.
So, you just had an “orgasm”, coffee, anyone? Woman are built different than man. Men can have the pleasure of their life, then zip up and go, that is mostly their physiology. Women, on the other hand, have the need to cuddle and enjoy the warmth and love of their partner. They wanna talk after it hugging close together or just lay together in silence. If the girl had orgasm and quickly got dressed and run to do something else, the guy would easily feel it was just fake.
Solution: Even if you “need” to fake it to get done with the process, make sure you take a few minutes to “recover” from your “orgasm” and spend at least a few more minutes to cuddle up and make the guy feel how amazing it was.
Mistake nr. 6: Speaking during your orgasm
You want to be like any of these porn stars that your boyfriend spends hours watching, and not to be boring… But remember, porn and real life sex are totally different and most guys would know it. If you keep commenting on your guy’s performance during the orgasm — it might look sexy, but for sure will also look fake.
Solution: Concentrate on faking good, not on talking.
Mistake nr. 7: Lastly… Never say you faked to others
Saying that you faked to all the previous partners but with you, darling, you finally have real ones — will butter up his ego but on the other hand will seed a doubt in his heart. He shouldn’t think you are capable of faking or even justify others doing it.
Bottom line line is, remember your orgasm is YOUR pleasure and not your partner’s entertainment, so be selfish and concentrated on yourself, don’t try to do it in a beautiful pose while licking your chops…
March 13th, 2008 at 1:34 am
wow! great read! Its very true that some women fake orgasm because of only two things, to avoid offending their partner and second to save the relationship. i have seen an article at xandria products they have tips on how to avoid fakes.
March 14th, 2008 at 5:46 pm
I think the biggest mistake is faking an orgasm altogether. So either talk about it and try to find a solution or just don’t fake it.
March 23rd, 2008 at 8:02 am
The #1 Tip for Great Sex is communication. I would not go the fake it route. Work together talk it out.
April 9th, 2008 at 1:56 pm
Faking orgasm is a no win situation for the both partners. If you’re in a long time relationship your partner must know if something isn’t working. If you’re out for a one night stand, chances are that the partner you’re with won’t really care. So you see, faking anything is not only unnecessary but it can damage your long term relationship with your significant other where communication is crucial.
July 13th, 2008 at 11:57 am
good article thanks
August 23rd, 2008 at 2:49 am
I’m with Daisy, faking an orgasm is just a big mistake. you just get to talk and find a solution.
Anyway great article and thanks for sharing.
August 26th, 2008 at 2:20 pm
Never fake an orgasm! This will cause you nothing but trouble on the long term. Great article!