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Some people pay for getting laid. While the moral, legal and religious aspect of this subject is forever debatable, we know that people get paid for this “service” and many others are willing to pay. It’s safe to say that paying for what you normally get free in a naturally loving and caring relationship either indicates perversion or total despair. Or both.
Now, what happens online in, dating websites?
Did you notice that ALL dating communities have the facility of paid subscription, some block your ability to IM and Private Message, others disallow you to upload a photo before you pay… They are kind of creative there. They do it, because they KNOW you will pay for the hope of talking to someone. The owners of such sites realize very well that if you are so beautiful, successful, socially developed and independent, so cute and sweet, such a great lover and interesting conversation that you searched Google for “dating sites”, signed up and have to choose a life-partner from the huge variety of the 100*100 pixel images… you probably will pay these measly 2 dollars for the chance of taking it further. What is 2$ on a way of a love and eternal happiness?!
We could make a similar allegory in real life, where people pay for entering certain pubs, pay for attending certain social events or even buying someone else a drink to “get” a company. The thing is, online it’s slightly different and I will tell you where is the cruelest catch with online dating. Read the rest of this entry »
Much as I am trying to cover all the aspects of dating and relationships in this blog, still, this whole love and dating theme is absolutely bottomless and no matter how much I try to discuss it, there are still plenty of ideas and suggestions I might not ever even come up with.
Sometime when I have some spare time from work, I also browse Dating Sites myself, and often find them to be a priceless source of information. One of the websites I particularly like is onlinedatingtips.org, because of their witty ideas, interesting articles and a lot of dating tips for both experienced and less experienced daters.
What do they offer?
First of all, they list all the leading dating websites which are well known for both their good reputation and huge amount of profiles to choose from. Secondly, as I said already, a huge database of dating guide articles for anyone who is not very familiar with the web dating process and want to have a rough idea as to how it all works. Lastly, just useful and handy tips - how, what, when, why. Does long distance dating work? How to meet the person for the first time? Answers to these and many other questions you will find at onlinedatingtips.org!
There are a few possibilities. First of all, you cannot “date” someone online without being romantic, so most of these peeps you consider to be dry and hopeless are in fact very fragile and touchy. But then again, WHY do they choose online dating over the regular way to meet friends in bars, pubs and swimming pools..? A several reasons I can think of:
- Will to be appreciated for the inner qualities, rather than outward appearance (especially if self-esteem is low).
- Bigger pool of potential partners (especially if you live in a small closed society).
- Escape from reality (especially if the reality you live on is nothing like you want it to be).
What other reasons could there be? I believe there are many more, but I can only think of these and when you come to date someone online, you have to remember that there is a reason why your online partner chose online dating, and the question is, can you unconditionally accept this reason..?
Dating online could be fun and entertaining, it could be a great way to choose from a huge pool of potential admirers and pass the time nicely, however, you should not forget that not every Mr. Nice Guy is indeed nice. Have you heard the dreadful story of a 13-years-old girl got attacked and raped by a person she met online? Or just go over this list of cases where people spoke on the phone or met online, planned a meeting and got raped, attacked, or even killed. Read this list through and the whole Internet dating idea will totally lose it’s charm.
Are everybody rapists?
NO, but there is definitely a good share of people who pretend to be something they are not, because: online you reveal only as much as you choose to reveal. You talked to the person and he has a soft mellow voice? Doesn’t mean he has bad intentions! You had seen him on cam and he looks sweet? Well, don’t forget that looks often mislead and if he is attentive and appears to be caring online, this could be a mere mask to trick you into meeting. Younger girls are more often the victims due to lack of experience and judgmental sense, as well as the tendency to fall in love, so typical at the adolescent age, they believe easier.
I remember seen a story on TV about a 40-years old woman with high education, who was talking to another highly educated guy of her age, for over 2,5 years. I doubt at that age she could have blindly fell in love and the mere fact that she waited almost 3 years for meeting indicats that she was not in a rush to meet and wanted to get to know the person better at distance. As you can guess, bottom line is that he attacked her and she survived by pure miracle, though her face will never be as before.
What I am trying to say is, if you chat with someone from you cosy room and if feels so great and safe, don’t lose your senses. The world out there is cruel, many people take drugs and lose control, many get addicted to their online buddies, and other factors that can endanger your life, and you only have one.
Basic tips for Safety Online:
- Guard your identity. Your first name is enough, don’t disclose any other details.
- Be careful with choosing a suggestive / sexy name. Some guys can take it wrong of their imagination will run wild.
- Don’t meet your online friends alone, do it only in a public place and inform your friends or relatives about the meeting beforehand.
- Don’t leave your drink (especially sparkling) unattended. Sounds silly? Do you know how many times this was used to slip an LSD table in one’s drink?
- Be wary of someone who is very vague, talks in circles or answers questions with other questions. If you sense your online buddy puts extra effort into protecting his privacy — at best, he could be married.
- Be cautious with people who complain too much about their money problems, how lonely they are and how life betrayed them. Maybe it’s true, but it’s also a great way to simulate your sympathy and love.
- Finally — use common sense and don’t let love rob you blind. Do a little digging, you might find the same person in another online dating site with a different picture or details…
Let’s face the sad fact and admit that life isn’t fair at all when it comes to opposite sexes. While men at their 30’s are still blooming and are open for offers, women around their 30’s and after this age quickly get downgraded in men’s eyes.
Let’s say you have devoted all of your 20’s to getting your career off the ground. Not that you haven’t been dating at all… of course you have, and had a great time, but not with serious intentions, since developing your life was more important and in some cases even essential. Now here you are, turning 30 and no long-term relationship on the horizon, but you can practically hear your biological clock ticking… It could make you nervous, but in essence, you have only a few priceless years to find a man to fall in love with, make him fall in love with you, get him to marry you, and have a baby or its lights out. Why only a few years? Because if you are single at your 38, you’re practically dead for most men at their 38. Sweet, is it not? But, that is life to you. Some guys would assume that if you are STILL single, something must be wrong with you, while others, when they are approaching their 40’s and are still unmarried, switch orientation to younger women, after all, they are only 38, would be a shame to waste the best years of their life on some 37-years-old granny, right? Either way, being single after 30’s — sucks.
When girl at this age realizes all of the above it either pushes her into a depression, or she goes wild hunting men and as a result scares them even more away. Presuming you’re already familiar with all of the men in your social circle, and none of them shows great interest, or not a good enough candidate, or just scares you off, what can you do?
Best is, to consider online dating.
You have the opportunity to read hundreds of profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in search of that “someone” that will be right for you. You aren’t limited to only those men that you come in contact with personally. The possibilities are almost endless, and while being cautious (it’s important!) as to who you are going to meet, you can find someone with similar tastes, hobbies and goals in life. Don’t forget that you need not be limited to Internet, there are many other alternatives such as mobile dating where you can meet new people and get in touch with someone new even when you sit bored in a metro on your way to work.
“Isn’t online dating consists of perverts, sexual predators and weirdos in assorted shapes and sizes?”
Well… while I’d not say anything about assorted shapes and sizes, not everyone who seeks a life partner online is a pervert. Not anymore anyway. That was true when online dating first came on the scene but now it is mainstream, and many business people who simply have no time to go to bars and hunt girls, avail of the facility to find a soul mate online. Use caution that you would use when meeting any stranger, as meeting someone on the street does not guarantee he won’t turn out to be married, pervert or god-knows what.
Never give your real name, address or phone number or other details until you feel safe doing so. Don’t rush into a face-to-face meeting until you are confident and then make the first meeting in a public place and during daylight hours. Still and all, give it a try… Man of your dreams could be just a few mouse-clicks away.
When it comes to online dating, it’s important to remember a several quite basic rules. I tried to summarize and organize them into very basic list of 5.
- 1. Do not join an online dating or matchmaking site expecting miracles. It’s just Internet, and the mere fact that these people seeking a match online indicate they, for whatever reason, unable to find it “offline”.
- 2. Do join an online dating site with both eyes wide open. Cautious would be your best guiding light, married men pretend to be single seeking adventures, old people pretend to be young, young pretend to be old, jobless pretend to be lawyers and so on…
- 3. Be absolutely sincere when you put your profile online and upload your photo. You want people to accept and love you, or a mere false image you have created?
- 4. Don’t limit yourself. Be open to meeting people who are very different from you. Most important to remember is that online, people might make a wrong, misleading impression, even unintentionally. Concluding anything before you have met the person is… irrational. “Confident” people online could be terribly shy in person.
- 5. LOVE yourself! If you love yourself, other people will love you as well, even more. Everything begins with self-love, as self-haters rarely ever find happiness in life.
Online dating has become a popular service nowadays. In fact, so many people all over the world, mostly singles, are members of various online dating services to find their perfect match.
While online dating services have benefits, there are some serious drawbacks to it too. The most important concern is your safety risk. How would you know that the otherwise sweet and loving chat mate of yours you need in an online service turns out to be a rapist or stalker?
Like traditional dating, online dating has some risks. To avoid danger, consider the following tips.
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Surfing though the online dating websites can turn to a fascinating habit. There are a several scenarios that most of “online daters” end up experiencing, and each one can seem an impeding way to a brighter life, full of mutual love.
The common first experience is the impulse sign up period; you browse dozens of promising profiles which grab your interest, and can’t help yourself and rush and register, posting a poorly composed profile. The 2nd most usually seen experience is that second of first contact, when you’re unsure of how should you proceed (if at all), or that if you should take down your profile fully, as the results do not live to your expectations… And then, after a while, there is that “online dating overload”, a feeling of burn out. In most cases, after a very active participation in online dating communities, people get fed up, disappointed and worn out of the meeting-new-lovers marathons.
Should it be like this? NO. If this is what you experience, then you definitely access the whole online dating thing from a wrong angle and have to look into the mistakes you make, which we will expand later on on this blog.
When it comes to dating and relationship, it’s very important to get to a point where you like your own life, enjoy it and its direction — before you start trying to include someone else in it.
Two of the biggest things people find attractive in potential partners are self-confidence and self-assuredness, both of which are the result of independent, enjoyable life. If you seek a partner only because of being lonely, then the fact that you’re lonely will make you come across in your partner’s eyes as desperate, and lower the ease with which you can get into a relationship as well as (maybe) the quality of the people you’ll be able to attract.
“Desperate” people (they don’t have to really be desperate, but as long as they appear to be “desperate”), may appeal to our pity, or on the contrary — to our sadistic nerve, but they will never make us respect them and highly value them.
If your social needs aren’t being met at the moment, then the best thing you can do it start working on achieving your basic (social) goals, so that you enjoy and benefit from full life, filled with goals you believe in, before taking the step of including someone else in your life route.
If you often ask yourself “What is he thinking of me?” or “What could I say?” or “How can I impress him/her more?” rather than “Wow, I am curious why he’s interested in this” or “I enjoy this chat so much” or even “This restaurant serves the best food!” — then you’re probably sinking in insecurity instead of actually enjoying yourself. You might hope your partner will not notice it, but anyone with at least 1-2 relationship behind his or her shoulders will easily spot hesitation, insecurity and fears that run across one’s heart. Such fears never attract anyone, let alone awake feelings of admiration and esteem, and it’s you who have to decide — do you want someone to stay with you out of compassion, or maybe achieving your goals first, reaching the level where you enjoy life and can share this joy is a better idea..?
And, if you think you are unhappy only because you have no love in your life, as harsh as it may sound — no, it’s not the reason. If your life is a satisfactory, you will enjoy it with or without a lover partner, or with this partner as well as with another. The joy of life comes from ourselves, it should, as depending your happiness and cheer on someone else could be… Dangerous. 
People who look for love online must have a hard time picking the right dating community to join to. Each site has its unique features, and today I am going to introduce you to KissCafe.com - Free Online Dating site, with loads of funky features.
So what advantages Kiss Cafe has over other dating websites? First of all, the site is available in English, French and Chinese, moreover, the same website is available in 25 countries, in local language for people who are looking for a match more locally. Also, they use audio and visual technology to bring the video messenger feature instantly to the members, so you need not add anyone to your MSN or Yahoo, you can chat with mic and cam right from the first second, if you like.. Evidently, dating online could be face to face! You can upload photos, get your own blog inside the website, attached to you profile, and let others know about what you do think or plan. Read the rest of this entry »